We finally made the move. It’s been three months since I’d seen my wife and youngest son.
She accepted a job offer in Hawaii earlier this year. We agreed she’d take the youngest boy, I’d stay in North Carolina with the two older ones until school finished. In three months, we’d meet again.
This was going to be tough.
If you’ve browsed my post from April, you already know I’ve been doing the single parent thing during this time. After finalizing our home sale in NC, turning over all work to my replacement, getting all travel, it seemed like smooth sailing…again, it “seemed” like smooth sailing.
It took every ounce of strength, patience and whatever I learned about inner peace from those two yoga classes 10 years ago, to get through those three months. Doing the job of two parents is not easy…but it happened, we made it and touched down in Hawaii last week.
Any parent whose had to make a cross-country or overseas move knows the stressors, costs, patience, etc. that go into such a life-changing shift, but it was one we not only wanted to make, we had to make.
We received a lot of assistance due to being a military family. Your move may vary, but I thought I’d point out a few things below that made ours smoother.
Tips on making the move to Hawaii:
- Start planning way in advance
- If not military, ensure you have solid employment
- Sell as much as you can (if it hasn’t been used in 90 days, sell it. minimize your living!)
- Look into affordable housing, understanding that your $ probably won’t go as far in HI
- Change of address with post office, credit cards, bank, etc.
- Arrange your household move, airline tickets, sell car/arrange for shipment
- Arrange medical and school transfers for kids
- If you have pets, start their shots and quarantine at least 120 days early to avoid HUGE fees
- Get ready for jet-lag from hell (6 hour time difference for us)
I’m positive there’s more to this list, but none that I can think of at the moment. I’ll continue updating as I go along.
The move was tougher than I thought, mostly because my wife wasn’t nearby to help out with all of the above, but with the use of checklists, proactivity and patience, we’re now living the Hawaii life.